Tips on Writing a Letter

The site doesn’t send the letters, so you’re free to write without fear, judgment, or consequence. That changes the intention in a powerful way. Here’s some advice specific to writing a healing letter:

1. This Letter Is for You, Not Them

Because your father will never read it (unless you choose to share it elsewhere), you have complete emotional freedom. You can:

• Say the things you were never able to say
• Express anger, grief, gratitude, or confusion
• Ask questions that may never be answered
• Find your truth, without needing a response

2. Let Go of Censorship

You don’t have to soften your words or protect anyone’s feelings. This is about processing, not politeness.
Write:

• What you really felt when certain things happened
• The things that still hurt, or that still matter
• What you wish you could have heard from him

3. Allow Contradictions

You can feel love and pain. You can miss someone and be angry at them. You can forgive someone and still not excuse their behavior. Let those contradictions live in the letter — they’re honest.

4. Use Prompts if You’re Stuck

Here are a few to start with:

• “What I wish you had known about me…”
• “I still carry this memory with me…”
• “If I could ask you one thing, it would be…”
• “I’ve grown into someone who…”
• “This letter is my way of saying…”